Our minds are wired to conserve energy.
That's why we often hear that negative inner voice saying things like, "I'm ugly," "I'm stupid," "I'm fat," or "I can't do it." These derogatory thoughts are common to all of us, stemming from the amygdala, which tries to protect us from attempting new and unfamiliar things.
In my coaching sessions with Janelle Brown, the star of "Sister Wives," we've been working on a paradigm shift—distinguishing facts from fiction in our self-talk. If I repeatedly tell myself,
"I am tired,"
"I'm overwhelmed,"
"I can't write,"
"I can't do this,"
I have to ask myself: Are these facts? Discerning between facts and the stories we tell ourselves is crucial.
Lessons from Janelle: The stories we tell ourselves are incredibly powerful.
For example, I often say that I don't have enough time. This story surfaces whenever I want to learn a new skill or tackle something unfamiliar, requiring significant investment in practice and learning. I tell myself, "I'm too tired," "I don't have the time," or "I don't have the money." These are common narratives, even among those who have the resources but feel too busy with their business, kids, or other commitments.
During our sessions, Janelle helps me recognize that these are just stories, not truths. Developing a new skill indeed takes a lot of energy and time, but the barriers we perceive are often self-imposed. Acknowledging this is the first step towards change.
In the next episode, we'll delve deeper into the stories we tell ourselves and how coaching with Janelle Brown can help rewrite those narratives. For those who haven't watched "Sister Wives," Janelle is a compassionate and insightful coach. I was initially nervous to meet her, but she quickly put me at ease, making our sessions productive and transformative.
If you find value in our discussions, please like this blog, share it with anyone who might benefit from coaching, and remember that there's no shame in asking for help—whether from a coach, therapist, pastor, mentor, or friend. We can't do life alone, so let's get obsessed with seeking the support we need.
Stay tuned as we share more intimate details of our coaching journey with Janelle Brown. Visit StriveWithJanelle.com to learn more about her coaching services and embark on your journey of self-discovery and growth.
